How does someone deal with Anger issues?
Anger management is rooted in the idea of being present and alert, aware of what is going on around you, so that you respond rather than react when something unexpected occurs.
How does someone deal with Anger issues?
Read: James 1:18-21, Eph 4:25-27, an Gal 5:22-23
The idea behind "Self-control" in these passages is not about controlling but rather responding. Rooted in the idea of being present and alert, aware of what is going on around you, so that you respond rather than react when something unexpected occurs.
1. It is possible to be angry without sin, for anger is an emotion created by God for certain adaptive purposes. Even Jesus became angry yet did not sin.
2. Deal with the issues that give rise to anger as soon as anger is noticed.
3. Not all anger is sinless. Some human anger can inhibit God's righteousness in one's behavior.
4. Such anger is irrational and pointless, accomplishing nothing but strife and should be dealt with immediately by the application of truth.
5. Self-control (alert and aware, respond instead of reacting) is the issue. Here are three elements of developing self-control in the area of anger:
A. Some anger is to be expressed to the person whose behavior provokes it. Speaking the truth in love, we seek to involve the other person in changing elements in our relationship which cause difficulty for us.
B. Some anger is not to be expressed but managed within us. Speaking the truth to ourselves, we seek to eliminate our angry feelings and responses, and to replace them with more God-pleasing and effective attitudes and behaviors.
C. Often, the Holy Spirit will lead us to do both of these things. Speaking the truth to ourselves until we are no longer angry, bitter, and resentful so that we can effectively speak the truth to the person whose behavior causes problems for us.